If you answer is yes to any or all of these questions than I can help.
Hi, my name is Deborah Henderson and I’m a Certified Professional Coach specializing in weight loss and healthy lifestyle management. My goal is to help busy professional women 50 and over who are frustrated, stressed out and overweight. They can’t seem to lose the weight and keep it off and they are concerned about what this weight is doing to their health. The quick fix diet mentality they used in their 30 & 40’s is no longer working.
These women are overworked and often burned out. They do everything for everyone else but find very little time for themselves. In essence, they've been what I call:, 'EDGED-OUT-OF-THE -EQUATION.'
When you think about the onset of menopause, hormonal change, sleep deprivation and the extra weight (Muffin Top or Buddha Belly), you might think that your body is letting you down or is out of control...WRONG!
Your body is NOT letting you down. Your body is crying out for attention. It’s begging to be put back as a priority in your life.
Ladies, we are NOT victims. The thoughts we think and the words we speak and the actions we take, create the experiences we live in our lives. Therefore, when we change our thoughts we change our lives.
I’m here to tell you there is hope. The reason I do this work is because it was just a few years ago that I found myself 70 pounds overweight, overworked and experiencing a myriad of stress-related health issues. My knees and back were in constant pain and at times I could barely go up and down the steps. Heart attacks and strokes were prevalent in my family. I decided I did not want to go out like that!
I wanted more than just to lose the weight. I wanted to develop a healthy lifestyle that served me and was one I could keep for the rest of my life. Each time I played the diet-regain game I ended up with more weight and my metabolism was reset lower and lower. Thus, coming back each time was more challenging the older I got.
This time had to be different. I drew a line in the sand and realized this would be the last time that I would play Russian roulette with my life. Realizing that this could be a long slow process, I dropped the quick fix diet mentality and gave myself permission to go at my own pace. Getting rid of the diet mentality was more challenging than I thought. Being on a diet is what I have done for most of my adult life. The diet mentality is about deprivation, the quick fix, the all or nothing thinking,
At one point along the journey, when feeling a little frustrated, I found myself saying, “I’ll be glad when I can get back to “Normal.” Diet mentality had snuck up on me once again. If the old “Normal” did not work for me, why would I want to go back to it? Mind shift: I needed a “New Normal.”
As I began to gather tools for my journey, I could see that my desire for real lasting change would only come about if I took a holistic approach to weight loss and lifestyle management. This meant that I would need to draw support from a Spiritual, Mental, Emotional and Physical perspective. They all fit perfectly together like pieces of a puzzle. If any one piece is missing the puzzle is not complete. Each area is important unto itself; but when they are in concert together, that’s when you can experience some amazing results in your life. If you’re wondering did I lose weight and get my health back, the answer is yes, but I gained so much more.
From a Spiritual perspective I learned to have a closer connection to my Source, my God and my spirit within me. By taking more time for prayer and meditation, I learned to listen to my intuition and be led from the spirit within.
From a Mental perspective, I learned to be keenly aware of my thinking. One of my teachers, Brooke Castillo said, “become an observer of your thoughts.” When we are in the middle of our own drama, it’s difficult to see what’s really going on. We have a tendency to get all hung up in circumstances. When we step back and become observers, as unpleasant as it may be, we can see the truth. The truth is, our thoughts have caused our feelings, which have triggered our actions, which have created the results we have in our lives. But there is good news. When we are experiencing results in our lives that we do not want, we have the power to change our thinking to thoughts that will better serve us. We might not be able to change the circumstances but we can always change the way we think about the circumstances. Thus, we always have a choice to think better thoughts!
From an emotional perspective, this was an area where I would need to spend much of my time. Emotional eating is the number one cause of obesity. Emotional eating is turning to food for comfort, not because you’re hungry. We use food, to celebrate, show love and appreciation. We use it to seek relief when we are bored, lonely, anxious, frustrated, depressed, angry or sad. Emotional eating can also lead to overeating and unwanted weight gain. Being an emotional eater for most of my life, I knew I would have to get to the bottom of why I overate in the first place and discover what I was really searching for.
From a physical perspective this was an area of strength. I’ve always studied and loved nutrition and I learned how to connect and listen to my body early on. Feeding my body real fuel and observing when I was satiated was a real eye opener. When I began to journal consistently I learned things about my eating habits that were priceless. The devil really was in the details. When you listen to your body, it will tell you if you are eating and/or exercising in a way that resonates. The body is magnificent and is constantly evolving. We have to be willing to experiment and make adjustments accordingly. There is not one-size-fits-all.
I help my clients by teaching the principles they need to know and understand in order to develop a healthy lifestyle.
They are based on the following:
- We look at how you are connected Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally and Physically.
- We get to the ROOT of why you are overeating in the first place and find out what you are really hungry for. (And I’m not talking about food.)
- We look at the food triggers, old habits, self-sabotage and the thoughts that will keep you from engaging in behavior that you really desire.
- I will provide you with the knowledge, tools and accountability so you can develop a healthy lifestyle for a lifetime.
Your body is magnificent and it already knows what to do. When we connect to our bodies, our thoughts, our feeling and our actions, we honor God’s most magnificent masterpiece.
I work with clients both 1 on1 and through group coaching. If you are ready to take a truthful look at the four pillars or your life (Spiritual, Mental, Emotional and Physical), and make the commitment to know and understand how your thoughts, feelings and actions are affecting your weight, I invite you to call me for a complimentary session so that together we can discover how you can "EDGE YOURSELF BACK INTO THE EQUATION" and make "YOU" a priority in your own life.'
Be Blessed, Be Inspired,
Deborah Henderson, M.S., PMP, CPC, CNHP